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This is truly a dreadful question feared by most 30+ singleton women. Question which also related to “Why you’re not yet married?”

First time I encountered this question years ago, I was caught off guard. I feel uncomfortable and annoyed. A lot of thoughts runs to my mind like, are they trying to insinuate that being single is a bad thing? What sort of answer do they expect to hear from me? OR why don’t they just mind their own business?” It’s like their asking how much I make for a living or how much I weigh. Question that I was not prepared to answer.  But because I don’t want to be rude and act defensively (besides I have nothing to defend!), I just smile confidently and try to change the topic right away.  I was not able to come up with a great answer back then.

And just as I’ve thought that I will encounter this annoying question again, from family and class reunion alike, or even from strangers, I decided to come up with various responses adding a dash of humor to it. Like… Why not? Is there a cut off age? Or, I’m Just lucky, I guess.  These also work; Oh, I’m fine. Thank you, the mail-order spouse I ordered hasn’t arrived yet and lastly, I’m waiting to end the mall’s inventory sale. Maybe they will have new stocks of nice men 😉

Adding some quirk and little sarcasm to your response can intrigue the person asking you. Let’s hope that he/she read between the lines.
If you have any comeback suggestions, please feel free to share 🙂

Well, I guess while we are still in this journey of singleness, let’s enjoy and recognize the freedom and independence that comes with it.  Not because we are single it means we have a lonely life. So chillax!

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Be fair and say good-bye

Posted: October 8, 2012 in Live & Learn
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They have been sweethearts for more than a year. Their involvement with each other had been very intense emotionally, intellectually and even sexually. They had been making plans to get married when she suddenly began to worry about their relationship, their love.

She noticed that he was seeing less & less of her, calling/texting less often and talking more & more about things that didn’t matter much. When she confronted him & asked him to explain, he simply said he was very busy with his work & needed more time for himself (hmm…in other words, starting to make lame excuses). Long after the relationship effectively ended, he had never said good-bye. He simply faded out of her life without even giving her a satisfactory explanation.

Is this story familiar? You bet! Far too often, relationships end without even a whimper. Lovers don’t say good-bye. Instead, they simply disappear quietly into the dark night. The lover who wants to end his relationship this way usually does so for any number of reasons.

First, he may feel guilty about walking away after having made a promise he evidently has no intention of keeping. He may not want to hurt the woman and hopes that by quietly sneaking out the back door, she will just forget about him. Or perhaps she does not want to be the one to end the relationship and thus refuses to put a period at the end of the chapter. Instead, she leaves without any formal finish to the relationship.

Lovers who use the “fade-out” technique believe it gives them less pain. Perhaps, but it isn’t fair. When a lover slowly backs out of a relationship piece by piece, he or she cuts away the partner’s self-esteem. More than that, when the relationship isn’t clearly ended, the partner may believe that there is still a good chance of patching things up and going on. This, even if the one leaving has no intention of doing so. Often, the one saying good-bye will create false expectations by saying things like, “Perhaps we can try again in a few months’ time.” Or, “This isn’t a break up, only a pause in a relationship” or others calls it “cool‒off” ‒ when you know very well that its’ over.

Often, the one wanting to leave will ask for impossible conditions for staying, believing those conditions are completely unacceptable. There is surprise when they are sometimes accepted.

It isn’t fair to play with one’ feelings, especially someone you once claimed to love deeply. You owe it to that person to be honest and clear about your intention.

Some advise:
1. Don’t use the “I need more time” excuse.
2. Encourage your partner to find a life independent of you
3. Let your actions reflect your words
4. Tell it as it is
5. Don’t make excuses

If you went into a relationship SINCERELY, you’re duty bound to leave it in the same manner.

[a re-post from my old blog]

Sharing you today’s message from my devotional book…

Be still and know that I am God – Psalms 46:10

There is a time and place in our walk with God in which He sets us in a place of waiting. It is place in which all past experiences are of no value. It is a time of such stillness that it can disturb the most faithful if we do not understand that He is the one who has brought us to this place for only a season. It is as if God has placed a wall around us. No opportunities- simply inactivity.

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During these times, God is calling us aside to fashion something new in us. It is an isolation chamber designed to call us to a deeper roots of prayer and faith. It is not a comfortable place, especially for a task-driven person. Our nature cries out, “You must do something,” while God is saying,” Be still and know that I am God.” You know the signs that you have been brought into this chamber when He has removed many things from our life and you can’t seem to change anything. Perhaps you are unemployed. Perhaps you are laid up with an illness.

Most religious people live a very planned and orchestrated life where they know almost everything that will happen. But for people in whom God is performing a deeper work, He brings them into the time of quietness that seems almost eerie. They cannot say what God is doing. They just know He is doing a work that cannot be explained to themselves or to others. Has God brought you to a place of being still? Be still and know that He really is God. When this happens, the chamber will open soon after.

[Source: Os Hillman, Today God is First (4minute meditations on the more important things in life)]

I was invited to stay for an overnight in Parque Espana Residence Hotel and was excited to check what this condo-tel located in the heart of Filinvest Corporate City, Alabang has to offer.

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I was booked at the Business Executive Suite and the hotel perks comes with complimentary 24hr shuttle service to nearby malls and offices within Filinvest Corporate City, use of swimming pool & jacuzzi (opens from 7am to 9pm daily) and fitness center (opens from 5am to 10pm daily)

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The bedroom

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Now the bedroom on different angle

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The room comes with kitchenette where you can cook your own meal

ImageHere’s the close up shot of the smooth ceramic top stove. Looks kinda cool!

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Yes, flat screen TV saves the space

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And here’s my work space during my stay 🙂

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view from the top

ImageHad breakfast with friends who works near-by. It was nice to see them again! 🙂

So, if you are looking for a nice and friendly service place to stay in Alabang area on business or leisure, Parque Espana Residence Hotel is a good choice. Their staff are courteous and kind. The hotel is clean, very homey and budget friendly. I had a wonderful experience and for sure I’ll stay there again.

There goes my first post.  I wonder where my happy feet will take me to my next journey.

ImageAnd, never forget to bring your trusty pair of strolling shoes on every travel

For more information about Parque Espana, visit their website at www.parqueespana.net