Archive for October, 2012

Just want to  share some wonderful thoughts I got from my email… 🙂

  • No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
  • God didn’t promise days without pain, Laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.
  • Disappointments are like road humps, they slow down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don’t stay on the humps too long. Move on!
  • When you feel down because you didn’t get what you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God is thinking of something better for you.
  • It is better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride.
  • We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead, we should be perfecting the love we give.
  • When you truly care for someone, you don’t look for faults, you don’t look for answers, you don’t look for the mistakes. Instead, you fight the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook the excuses.
  • When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means. There’s a purpose to life’s events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.
  • You can’t make someone love you all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.
  • The measure of love is when you love without measure. In life there are very rare chances that you’ll meet the person you love and loves you in return. So once you have it don’t ever let go, the chance might never come your way again

What is love? A lot of people have their own definitions of this four letter word. I saw a humorous definition which said “Love is a heterogeneous conglomeration of absurdity calculated to bamboozle the anatomy of the individual who become intoxicated with its abominable and irresistible power.” Whoa! Could that ever be love? Another one, Love is a feeling you feel when you feel that you’re going to get a feeling that you never felt before.” Whew! Whatever that is, it surely isn’t love! So how do we know if this is true love or not? Well, love has its counterfeit called infatuation. Now, let’s discern the counterfeit from the genuine.

Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love’s feelings are ruled by principle. In the field of infatuation, the feelings are in charge. But the problem is that our feelings are fickle. They change easily. Today I feel great, so I kiss her. Tomorrow I feel terrible, so I kick her. That’s no love! True love has feelings, tender feelings which are put in the human heart by a caring God. But love is not composed of feelings only. It is feeling plus principle. Moreover, love is not controlled by feelings. It does not do anything and everything it feels. Rather in true love, the feelings are under control of principle.

Infatuation is blind, but love sees & examines. It cannot see and does not wish to see! Example, when a girl recognizes that her BF is hooked on drugs, but still proceeds with plans for marriage or when a boy observes his GF flirting continuously with other men but still goes ahead with the love affair, infatuation has blinded them. True love uses its eyes to see and to examine the strengths and weaknesses of the prospective partner. It is not afraid to ask hard questions nor to do difficult examinations.

Infatuation is in a hurry, but love takes time. Everything of permanent value in life takes time. We can build a shack overnight, but if we are building a house that will stand fury of a typhoon, that takes time. We can put up an artificial Christmas tree overnight, but to grow a real tree, that takes time. It has to be planted, watered and nourished for weeks, months, or years. Love is like a plant- a tender precious plant. Infatuation is ever in hurry: see her today, court her tomorrow, and marry her the day after! It’s “love at first sight”. It’s “puppy love.” And someone has rightly said, “Puppy love leads to a dog’s life.” But while this “puppy love” is in hurry, true love takes time- time to know and time to grow. Knowing a person always takes time & there is no “shortcut”.

Infatuation is obsessed with externals, but love is concerned with internals. “Puppy love” is obsessed with the figure, is a slave to the fashion, and is intoxicated with sex appeal. In fact, where infatuation reigns, sex dominated the relationship. True love admires the figure & appreciated sexual intimacy. But these are not the greatest concerns of true love. It is more concerned with the personality, the kind of person the partner really is. Love examines the habits, the inner virtues or vices. True love pays attention to the character, the inner self. While we cannot read a person’s heart, our concern should be more what the beauty of character rather that the beauty of figure.

Infatuation is childish, but love is mature. Childish & selfish, “puppy love” says “Give me,” with a little or no concerns for the other. It is self-centered. But true love is other-entered. It is concerned with the welfare of one’s partner. Childish and irresponsible, infatuation says, “I don’t understand the word tomorrow; give it to me now.” It cries for gratification today, regardless of the consequences later. On the other hand, true love refrains from enjoying today that which it will regret tomorrow.

Infatuation is a human ditch, but love is a divine ladder. One goes down, the other goes up. Infatuation is a ditch into which blindfolded people fall, but love is a ladder onto which wide-eyed people climb. In a certain sense, we do not “fall” in love; we climb on to love. True love does not come by accident; it involves effort. It takes thinking & working & caring. So while infatuation is a human pit, true love is a divine ladder. And every person has a freedom to choose between the tragedy of one and the triumph of the other.

[Source: I Love You by Gordon Martinborough]

Never took a moment for granted. Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.  – Unknown

Photos can create a lot of wonderful memories for us and doing a “life in picture” collage can be fun and memorable. You too can do the same by picking out your pictures to respond to these moments listed below or you can create your own list of moments as well.

Here’s sharing you bits and pieces of my life captured in pictures.

1. Picture/s of you at work.

Me at work over the years

2. Picture/s of you drinking or being drunk.

Drinking but not really drunk

3.  Picture/s of you on your birthday.

My birthday last year (left) and six years ago (right)

4. Picture/s of you taking a picture.

5. Picture/s of you making a goofy face at the camera.

Look what technology can do now

6. Picture that’s edited.

Feeling model 😉

7. Picture/s of you truly being yourself.

8. Picture/s of you being absolutely ridiculous.

Wearing crazy outfits for theme parties

9. Picture/s of you with people you just met

With visiting colleagues from Spain (top) and other tourists we met at the club in Saigon (below)

10. Picture/s of a time in your life that’s over, but you wishes it wasn’t.

11. Picture/s of you with/or people you miss.

12. Picture/s of you and/or someone you couldn’t live without.

My Family

13. Picture/s that describes how you’d like to spend everyday.

14. Candid picture/s of you.

15. Picture/s of one of the best days/nights of your life.

Making my parents proud; by graduating in College (left) and playing in the snow for the first time (right)

16. Picture/s of your past.

The evolution of me 🙂

17. Picture/s of your future.

To explore, experience and expect more from this life’s journey

You can check out my bucket list 🙂

For now, as I walk in this life’s journey, I try to enjoy every single steps I take.

“Life moves pretty fast.  If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” -(Ferris Bueller’s Day Off)

the future looks bright 🙂

Everyday, we make memories.. Let’s paint our lives with happy ones.

DISCLAIMER:  I do not claim ownership of some images  shown in this post.
FOR OWNERS OF THE PHOTO/S: If it happens that you see your work posted here, and you don’t want it to be, and you want it removed/credited, just email me with the link of the photo here: nfvila@yahoo.com Thank you! 🙂

ImageEveryone’s life is driven by something.  Most dictionaries define the verb drive as “to guide, to control, or to direct.” Whether you are driving a car, a nail, or a golf ball, you are guiding, controlling, and directing it at the moment.

What is the driving force in your life?

Right now you may be driven by a problem, a pressure, or a deadline.  You may be driven by a painful memory, a haunting fear, or an unconscious belief.  There are hundreds of circumstances, values, and emotions that can drive your life.  Here are five of the most common ones:

Many people are driven by guilt. They spend their entire lives running from regrets and hiding their shame.  Guilt-driven people are manipulated by memories.  They allow their past to control their future.  They often unconsciously punish themselves by sabotaging their own success.  When Cain sinned, his guilt disconnected him from God’s presence, and God said, “You will be restless wandered on the earth”. (Genesis. 4:12)  That describes most people today- wandering through life without a purpose.

We are product of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.  God’s purpose is not limited by your past.  He turned a murdered named Moses into a leader and a coward named Gideon into a courageous hero, and he can do amazing things with the rest of your life, too.  God specializes in giving people a fresh start. The Bible says, “What happiness for those whose guilt has been forgiven!…What relief for those who have confessed their sins and God has cleared their record.”(Psalms 32:1)

Many people are driven by resentment and anger. They hold on to hurts and never get over them.  Instead of releasing their pain through forgiveness, they rehearse it over and over in their minds.  Some resentment-driven people “clam-up” and internalize their anger, while others “blow up” and explode it onto others. Both responses are unhealthy and unhelpful.

Resentment always hurts you more than it does to the person you resent.  While offender had probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past.

Listen: Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you unless you hold on to the pain through resentment.  Your past is past! Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness.  For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.  The Bible says, “To worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do.” (Job 5:2)

Many people are driven by fear.  Their fears may be a result of traumatic experience, unrealistic expectations, growing up in a high-control home, or even genetic predisposition.  Regardless of the cause, fear-driven people often miss great opportunities because they’re afraid to venture out.  Instead they play it safe, avoiding risks and trying to maintain the status quo.

Fear is a self –imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be.  You must move against it with the weapons of faith and love.  The Bible says, “Well-formed love banishes fear.  Since fear is crippling, a fearful life-fear of death, fear of judgment-is one not yet formed in love.”(1 John 4:18)

Many people are driven by materialism. Their desire to acquire becomes the whole goal of their lives.  This drive to always want more is based on the misconceptions that having more will make me happier, more important, and more secure, but all three ideas are untrue.  Possessions only provide temporary happiness.  Because things do not change, we eventually become bored with them and then want newer, bigger, better versions.  It’s also a myth that if I get more, I will be more important.  Self-worth and net worth are not the same.  Your value is not determined by your valuables, and God says the most valuable things in life are not things!

The most common myth about money is that having more will make me more secure.  It won’t.  Wealth can be lost instantly through a variety of uncontrollable factors.  Real security can only be found in that which can never be taken from you- your relationship with God.

Many people are driven by the need for approval.  They allow the expectations of parents or spouses or children or teachers or friends to control their lives. Many adults are still trying to earn the approval of unpleasable parents.  Others are driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think.  Unfortunately, those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.

I don’t know all the keys to success, but one key to failure is to try to please everyone.  Being controlled by the opinions of the others is a guaranteed way to miss God’s purpose for your life. Jesus said, “No one can serve two masters.” (Matthew 6:24)

There are other forces that can drive your life but all lead to the same dead end: unused potential, unnecessary stress, and an unfulfilled life.

Nothing matters more than knowing God’s purposes for your life, and nothing can compensate for not knowing them- not success, wealth, fame, or pleasure.  Without a purpose, life is motion without meaning, activity without direction, and events without reason.  Without a purpose, life is trivial, petty and pointless.

[Source: The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren]

Once in awhile I get the chance to meet my girlfriends from the Ad agency I used to work in Makati for a dinner. The night will never be complete without having a cup of coffee, tea and dessert after. Instead of going to our favorite coffee shop, we decided to try the most talked about newly opened J.Co Donuts and Coffee in Greenbelt 3 (The 3rd branch here in the Philippines).  J.Co is originally from Jakarta Indonesia opened in 2005. Since then the craze swept across Asia where they captured the hearts and palates of donut and coffee lovers in Singapore, Malaysia, China and now the Philippines. Aside from gourmet donuts and coffee, they also have frozen yogurts.

We  ordered the assorted dozen so we can try the variety of flavors. Of course we never want to miss their best seller “Alcapone” a J.Co’s signature product. It has white Belgian chocolate and topped with Californian almonds.

Their donuts are soft, chewy and not so sweet. Something that I really look for in a donut. They really taste good with or without coffee. Now I know why people are patiently standing in the queue for almost an hour and keeps on coming back.

And yes, we are one of those who stand in the queue for an hour and a half just to experience their donuts.

 So far, my favorites are: Green Tease, Tiramisu and their signature donut Alcapone.

If you want to bring some at home, make sure to keep it in 18oC cool temperature first and then just re-heat to enjoy!

I can’t wait for the opening of J.Co Donuts branch in Alabang Town Center.   It will be very convenient for me then. 🙂

Check out the prices and the punny names of their donuts below.

For more information, you may visit their website at http://www.jcodonuts.com

 


Moving forward into the great future God has made for you involves learning how to overcome the disappointments in your life. Like, when you are lied to by a boss, betrayed by a friend, walked out by a loved one, its’ natural to feel remorse or sorrow. Nobody expects you to be an impenetrable rock. These kinds of losses leave indelible scars, causing you to want to hold on to you grief. It is easy to want to get even. But you must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. Often, defeating disappointments and letting go of the past is the flip side of the same coin, especially when you are disappointed in yourself. When you do something wrong, don’t be quick to beat yourself up about it. Admit it, seek forgiveness and move on. Be quick to let go of your past mistakes and failures, hurts, and pains. And remember that God has promised that if you will put your trust in Him to bring about the justice in your life, He will pay you back for all the unfair things that have happened in your life. That means you don’t have to go around day after day trying to win and pay everybody back. God is your vindicator. Let Him fight your battles for you and let Him handle them His way. Don’t live in regret or remorse or sorrow. They will only interfere with your faith. Faith must always be a present-tense reality, not a distant memory. God can turn your situation around and make it all up to you, plus much more!

 

Repurposing is a creative way of finding new uses for old items you’ll see around your home and it’s also a fun way to help our environment 🙂

Found this unused shower curtain rod when we transfer. So instead of throwing it out, I thought of why not use it for my accessories.